I was stuck in a rut once as well… Not anymore!

‘I don’t know what to do.’  ‘I’m in a rut.’  ‘I feel stuck.’ Sound familiar? If so, don’t worry, this was me, so I know how you feel.

I spent so long feeling lost and not knowing what to do then I read a fantastic article by a Gentleman called Marc Chernoff and I have never looked back. The article helped me so much that I am going to share the advice so hopefully it will help you too!

The truth is, the power to move forward no matter what obstacles block your path is within you. You are the master of your own behaviour and if you want to change, you can. It isn’t easy but then anything that is worth something doesn’t get given to us on a plate.  You have the power to change your life because you have the CHOICE.  You can choose what you think, what you do, and who you want to be.

If you’re being pulled in every direction by forces beyond your control, take time to realign yourself with what you value most in life. If you allow yourself to be pulled all over the place then you have to understand that you are choosing this, if you don’t like it then make some changes.

Below is what Marc taught me…

1.  Feeling stuck is a FEELING, not a fact.

When we feel stuck, typically our first instinct is to look outside of ourselves for someone or something to blame.  In reality, we ought to be looking at how we’re feeling, what we’re thinking, and how we plan to respond.  Your life is your responsibility.  While you can’t always change what’s outside of you, you can certainly change your perception of it.  And the funny thing is, when you change the way you look at things, the things themselves change.

2.  Yesterday’s bad news is not worth reliving.

You can’t have a better today if you’re still thinking and worrying about yesterday.  Whatever could have been or should have been, doesn’t matter.  Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you have one foot on the brakes when you’re thinking about the past.  In order to be free, you must learn how to let go of whatever old news is keeping you stuck.  The energy it takes to hang onto these things is holding you back from a new beginning.  What is it you want to let go of today?  Do it!

3.  Feeling stuck is a sign that it’s time to make a change.

It could be a change of heart, a change in your perspective, or a change in your habits.  But the point in any case is that the way you are doing things is no longer working.  Imagine yourself as a river, flowing into a great ocean.  Often a river grows narrower and appears on the surface to lack movement just before it breaks through to the larger body of water.  The same thing happens to us as we prepare for a breakthrough in life.  Our flow must contract before it can expand.  And the contraction is equally important to the expansion.

4.  What you need to do won’t be easy, but it will be worth it in the end.

If you’ve been asking the same questions for a long time, yet you’re still stuck, it’s probably not that you haven’t been given the answers, but that you don’t like the answers you were given.  Remember, it takes a great deal of courage to admit that something needs to change, and a lot more courage still, to accept the responsibility for making the change happen.  Growth and change may be painful sometimes, but nothing in life is as painful as staying stuck where you don’t belong.

5.  An excuse is standing somewhere between you and the next step you need to take.

If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way.  If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.  This may be tough to accept, but it’s the truth.  Stop making excuses for why you can’t get it done and start focusing on all the reasons why you must make it happen.  The only person who can truly hold you back is you.  So no more excuses – it’s time to change.  It’s time to choose what’s best for YOU.  Oftentimes when we feel stuck, we are waiting for something magical to happen.  We wonder when the winds will change in our favour.  We do this instead of embracing the present and admitting the change we need to make.

What is keeping you from stepping forward?  If not fear of failure, then what?  Insecurity?  Laziness?  What is your excuse?  We all have one.  And when we focus on our excuses more than our steps forward, we walk in a circle and fall into the familiar pit we call “Stuck.”

I found the article that Marc wrote a real wake up call. It motivated me to look at what I wasn’t happy with, take responsibility and make changes. I am now one of the Directors of a national training company and I am so happy, I just wish I had read the article earlier!

Take control and make the changes you need to make you happy.

Good luck and enjoy!